Comments on: Today, tomorrow, whenever

By: SanityFound

SanityFound — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 14:05:45 +0000

Lol Amber definitely has the scars but they are healing and she is becoming more shiny bright than ever before! Seriously… did the same … not pretty

Once I fetch the kids going to sit down and have a proper read, am missing you sooooo muches!

Hugs to you, hang in there huns ok

Mwah mwah!

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 08:22:14 +0000

Been there, done that, bought the tshirt. You will kill yourself trying to help, show her the right path. You will extend yourself to her because that is who you are. She will take it all for granted and act as though you have done nothing for her. Seriously.

I did it for my two brothers for YEARS. I believed in their good. I bailed them out of everything from relationships to financial issues over and over and over again. There comes a point where you just see it for the truth. They are going to make their mistakes, their choices with you, or without you. All you are doing is wasting your time, energy and resources. And in the end guess what? They will resent you for it. Cause A. You are the “know it all”. B “You think you are better than everyone else”. C “You had it so easy in your life you would never understand”. D. “You are always in everyone else’s business”.

Oh yeh sister. I have soo been there. Been there…. I got the scars. Wanna see?????

By: bojinx

bojinx — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:41:41 +0000

I feel as though I, well, I just don’t have the energy for all the drama. But at the same time, I do believe that my sister is worth fighting for, and the right things are worth fighting for, but I’m not sure I want to get that involved in her life… ugh. If something happens to her, and I could’ve fought, then I’ll feel it for the rest of my life… But perhaps I’m only over reacting, but at the same time, I may be over reacting, and chances are she’ll be absolutely fine… but what is she learning by being shown this kind of irresponsibility? Will she also always take the easy route like my dad does?

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:53:10 +0000

You know.. its interesting. I went through all of this crapola with my own family and finally I said: I give! And that, was the best day of my life. Because I finally broke free of the constant drama, trauma, and stress.

Good luck honey.

By: slightlyignorant

slightlyignorant — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 08:40:40 +0000

I think you’re finding the healthy balance here, not becoming cold or callous in any way.
Remember though, your father is not like your old boyfriends in one significant detail – it’s harder, much harder, to truly write family off. If you talk to him and it ends badly then maybe a year or two will pass with both of you feeling huffy about each other. But I don’t know how possible it is for that to be the end, a complete end, because he IS your father, despite the fact he’s been treating you with disrespect and disregard for your feelings. Just remember that even if you confront him, it’s not really the end.